Sometimes women talk too much. And when we start talking (too much), we start divulging too much. And when we start divulging (too much) because we talk (too much), listeners get TOO involved in our business. But is it really our business anymore after we've shared it with an audience of eager ears?
Being in a relationship has shown me how valuable silence is. When my Soulmate and I initially began to embark upon a serious commitment, silence meant praying and seeking to understand him instead of being reactive (and always wrong, smh), but as time grew and our bond became stronger, I learned how necessary silence in the regard of preserving our exclusivity was. I learned that while it was perfectly fine for me to have close friends, it wasn't okay for those friends to be so close that my relationships with them disrespected the boundaries of my relationship with him.
Brunch, dinner dates, and drinks at the bar were fine, but what wasn't fine was when the highlight of those events was me "telling all" about my relationship. I figured certainly there must be other - more general, less potentially destructive - topics to discuss?! So, me and him became taboo unless it was for the sake of providing some sort of inspiration. Of course such a drastic change made for unhappy "friends," but instead of allowing the emotional manipulation of their anger taunt me into going back on my decision, I kept pressing forward, realizing that those who minded likely never had good intentions anyway.
Shutting my mouth did wonders for my relationship! Not only was I no longer concerned about whether or not me telling "G" something meant "M, B, and P" would also know, I also only had God and my partner to depend on for troubleshooting within our relationship. This increased my communication with them both and actually incited real solutions! We'd gotten our three-strand cord (Ecclesiastes 4:12) and were more stable than we'd ever been before.
